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I can tell you a bit about understanding the active alcoholic but I cannot make it make sense to you because understanding the active alcoholic requires stripping away a lot of rational thought, the acknowledgement and willingness to learn from mistakes, the ability to recognize obvious patterns of behavior, and quite often, the application of common sense. What I am describing here is the person who is still drinking, is high functioning, and has not yet lost the things they hold dear.

beers were made from successive extracts of a single batch of brown malt in a top-fermentation process.

The first and strongest extract gave the best-quality beer, called strong beer, and a third extract yielded the poorest-quality beer, called small beer.

I’ve been to an Al-Anon meeting but it’s not enough.

Often, finance, children and other circumstances prevent any simple solutions.

In the 18th century, London brewers departed from this practice and produced porter.

Made from a mixture of malt extracts, porter was a strong, dark-coloured, highly hopped beer consumed by the market porters in London. Pale ale is less strong, less bitter, paler in colour, and clearer than porter.

This post describes what it’s like to grow up in an alcoholic family.

As the years go on, the baby raised in a stressful, inconsistent home environment develops a battle-ready Fight or Flight response, does not develop the natural ability to trust, and thrives on chaos simply because it’s so familiar.

Alcoholics think, act, believe, and feel based on distorted perceptions or themselves and the world around them. There is no moderation, no middle ground, no compromise, and no gray area in their worldview.

To varying degrees, alcoholics live in denial of their destructiveness (self and others) and this further distorts what they are able to make sense of.

Friends and family of active alcoholics ask me to explain how the alcoholic thinks.