Start Dating again after becoming a widow

Dating again after becoming a widow

"Though I know I'll never lose affection For people and things that went before I know I'll often stop and think about them In my life, I'll love you more." The Beatles "I can't live if living is without you." Mariah Carey "A widow's refusal of a lover is seldom so explicit as to exclude hope." Samuel Richardson All of us have romantic predicaments; widows (and widowers) seem to have even more. And if they find another lover, while still loving their late spouse, how can these two lovers reside together in their hearts?

Frank's sickness and death belonged to him, but they had changed my life, too, making demands and requiring sacrifices.

Romantic love is a central expression of a good, meaningful, and flourishing life.

Without love and desire, many people feel that a large part of them is dead.

Here, we excerpt a chapter of the book where she addresses one of the most common topics widows struggle with: getting intimate with someone new after a loved one passes.

*** With kudos to the writer of this marvelously insightful phrase, when it comes to this most sensitive and simultaneously hot button issue, I believe that truer words have never been written.

ONE MARCH AFTERNOON IN 2010, I logged on to Facebook and glanced at my relationship status.

My 42-year-old husband, Frank, had been dead for a month, but it still said "Married." Then, in a surreal, only-in-the-21st-century moment, I changed it to "Widowed." I hesitated, but I had to do it: No word but So, at age 39, after seven years of marriage, I was no longer married; I was a widow.

And is widowhood the proper time to fall in love again?