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First message dating site advice

For all my shyness, I never found it very difficult to have conversations on a first date.

For dating services that focus more on finding a long-term relationships, like e Harmony or Match, simply saying “Hi” won’t cut it.

“Simply saying ‘hi’ or ‘hello’ in your message will give you an 85 percent chance of not receiving a reply,” says e Harmony Chief of Advice Jeannie Assimos.

In other words, it’s totally okay to shoot her a short, simple message like “Hi,” or “What’s up,” says psychologist Michele Barton, Ph. In fact, with “hook-up” apps like Tinder and Hinge, it’s actually better to err on the side of short, according to Barton, who says a “big, prepared statement” might seem too intentional and make you look insecure.

Keep in mind that this depends on the dating app you’re using.

But when it comes to breakups, there’s another phrase that rings true: hindsight is 20/20. I’ve been taking myself on dates—going to dinner or lunch by myself, or taking myself to the movies alone.

In the aftermath of a messy split, it can be hard to have clarity. Sometimes, I’ll wander around an antique store, or enjoy a leisurely stroll through the Farmer’s Market....

Our writers explore and prepare you for the thoughts and feelings we all experience on our dating journey to keep things fun and interesting.